Forgiveness: The New Antidote

Making relationships work with another human being comes at a high price especially when you are trying to do something you have never witnessed. Partnerships are messy, raising children can be complicated + loving yourself in the process of unpacking another individual’s trauma can bring about a whole new set of challenges. I am convinced that Spirit had a sense of humor when they constructed the beautiful idea of connecting with another individual.

One thing I have learned by being married is the power of forgiveness. When I was married before I would hold grudges not recognizing that when you are upset with your spouse; everyone is punished…including you. I have learned that forgiveness awakens you + tucks your ego into a corner. It gathers your resentment like a rose bush with too many thorns; urgent + precise. If you have an unshakeable urge to complain, forgiveness reaches for your attitude + reminds you that love is too mature to compete with you.

It crushes your ego + amputates your criticism in an effort to prove that no one ever wins when you bring a sledgehammer to a sanctuary. Never get with a human being under the guise of loving them only to try to bend them to your will. Love is like stardust in that it should be scattered in sacred spaces around people who live in service to one another. Loving someone is desperately liberating to the point that you want the best for them even when it hurts.